Category Archives: Counseling

The Ex Insecurities

Hey babe, I saw my ex at the mall today, and he told me to tell you hello. How do you think this spouse responded? What would your response have been?  Well, let me share what my husband would probably do – he’d give me the side-eye, and then ask, “Which one?”! In the earlierContinue reading “The Ex Insecurities”

Are You Afraid of Success?

Happy Tuesday, family! I’m having one of those “reality moments” in my life where I’ve recognized that I was making excuses for not executing God’s plan for my life. A few years back, I felt that I’d taken the reigns on fear, completely overcoming it – I was wrong. What I understand now is thatContinue reading “Are You Afraid of Success?”

Does My Marriage Matter?

Do you ever have those days when you feel like you’ve lost yourself? Do you ever feel that being in your marriage has taken your voice away? I know that during this pandemic, we have been busy being the husband/wife, the parent, the employee/employer, student, and all the other roles we play in any givenContinue reading “Does My Marriage Matter?”

Ask For Help

In a session with one of my clients this week, I posed the question, “What made you finally ASK for help?”. She paused, smiled, dropped her head – attempting to somewhat dissengage, but I didn’t let her. She later shared that she was afraid of how she was feeling and that she was TIRED. IContinue reading “Ask For Help”

Marriage Requires Forgiveness

As a Pre-Marital and Marriage Counselor, it’s been revealed that most challenges happen in marriage because the individuals came into the marriage broken, selfish and harboring unforgiveness from the past. One of the greatest keys to Wholeness in marriage lies in our ability to understand forgiveness. We have high expectations of our Heavenly Father toContinue reading “Marriage Requires Forgiveness”

Counseling and People of Color

Life challenges are not color blind! Emotional, mental and spiritual problems hit everybody, but there is a definite stigma in our people of color from seeking help from counselors. Most share that the issus iis fear, pride, denial or finances, and each of those could certainly play a role but is there something deeper? ToContinue reading “Counseling and People of Color”

Don’t Be So Quick to Judge

If you met me on the street looking like this, what would be your first thought? She’s crazy, she needs help? Something’s wrong? We generally come up with an opinion that’s negative when we engage with someone who “appears” differently, okay, maybe not you – but most do. As an African-American woman who is educated,Continue reading “Don’t Be So Quick to Judge”

I Can Cope

What do you consider being the first step to coping? In my opinion, it’s mindfulness. Mindfulness is defined as, “the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something; a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feeling, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used asContinue reading “I Can Cope”

I Talked Too Much

“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart, and they defile the man.” – Matthew 15:18 KJV A tainted heart does a lot of damage! Do you ever give thought to what has been coming out of your mouth as a child of God or as a person, savedContinue reading “I Talked Too Much”