Hey babe, I saw my ex at the mall today, and he told me to tell you hello. How do you think this spouse responded? What would your response have been? Well, let me share what my husband would probably do – he’d give me the side-eye, and then ask, “Which one?”!
In the earlier years of my marriage, we had challenges with my past relationships because I didn’t wholly disengage with people, I redefined their role. When someone has held a particular position in your life, and you’ll discover that it’s not healthy and separate, it doesn’t mean that this person can’t still be in your life, they need to stay in their new lane, called acquaintance.
I’ve worked with many couples who have real challenges with insecurities about the ex’s that stem from betrayal, fear, and some attempting to keep their dirt covered by imposing pressure on their mate. Whatever it is that’s causing the insecurity in your relationship, I want to encourage you to get to the core of that emotion before it destroys something beautiful.